Why do you cry so much? She asked
I don’t know.
But there must be a reason, right? She persisted.
Do you cry when you are sad?
Do you cry when you are hurt?
Do you cry when you are angry?
Yes, i think yes.
OK. Crying is a sign of helplessness. Are you helpless?
Are you helpless?
Do you think you are so helpless that you can not take action? What could you have done differently, instead of crying?
I have no idea. I just felt so hurt, so dejected that the tears flowed. It was so unfair. It just wasn’t how things are done.
OK. So you felt hurt. But were you helpless? You could have addressed it head on. Right? Maybe you were scared that there would be a confrontation. Maybe you thought you would be blamed of something. Maybe… and there are a hundreds of maybes that I can give you.
End of the day, were you helpless? No. Could you have chosen another way? Yes.
So, next time, before you allow those tears to encroach upon your cheeks, ask yourself, “Am I helpless?” And if the answer is no, just act upon the reason of “No”.